You get increasingly frustrated, annoyed and angry and then you leave in a huff having a terrible mood.
I'm going to help you stop losing those arguments. You ready? Here you go: stop having them.
Seriously. Have you ever resolved anything by getting loud or belligerent, or harsher?
Here's what you're doing - harming a relationship in the hopes of being told you're right.
But guess what you hate doing for somebody who you don't have a good relationship with? Admitting they're right.
So you're creating an impossible situation. "I'm making you angry, now admit I'm right!"
If you find yourself in this situation, the best thing to do is stop arguing. And then stop getting into arguments.
Conversations? Discussions? Great. But not arguments.
If there's somebody in your life with whom you cannot converse without it becoming an argument, then stop getting into conversations until you have fixed the underlying relationship problem.
Here's how the Bible says it in Proverbs 26:4: "Don't answer the foolish arguments of fools, or you will become as foolish as they are."
You will not change another person through arguing. You might change them through love and mercy and grace and acceptance.
I often relay the quote from Martin Luther King Jr: "Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that."
When people stop shouting at one another, it creates space for relationship to form, and genuine relationship fixes a lot of problems.
35@35 is a blog series by Thomas Christianson which involves 35 blog posts in 2014 on 35 things he has learned at the age of 35.